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Cadence Home · The Mental Load Map

Map what only one of you currently holds.

For each recurring household task, mark who notices it, who decides what to do, and who actually does it. Most households have an asymmetry between the doing and the thinking. The Map names it.

How to use it

  1. Set up the household and the two adults (5 seconds).
  2. Both of you work through the list — sit down together if you can, the conversations are the point.
  3. For each task, pick who notices, who decides, who acts. Either / Both are valid.
  4. Share the URL with each other or come back to it. Editing is live; no signup.